I was once asked who are you? Beauty, Brain or Beauty with Brain?
And I Said what the f***!! What kind of question is this? I really, really want to take the crap out of that first chauvinist who came up with this term. Like, do we call men as well with any similar term like this? Like, “Hey, are you a sexy looking man with the empty skull”? Do we question good looking men also for their brains? Then who came up with this label ‘Beauty with Brain’ for women? Why it should be even questionable? Can’t we have both and flaunt both? Why is our stereotype society always so attracted to the wrong concepts and stick to it like a paid submissive?
In this stereotype society, where women are labelled either as nerd or beauty without brains and blah, blah and blah It is easy to be beautiful, it is difficult to appear so! Because, even if you believe that you are gifted with a beautiful body and intelligent brain to make it look more beautiful, what goes in the mind of your audience is totally different. For instance, you enter into a party slaying your red dress, red lips, 6 inches high heels, flaunting a little flesh, you walk with poise and your chin up. But, the people who are watching you will just easily consider you as good enough only for standing around, to be drooled over and nothing more. Some of the women observing you might, in their head, label you as a bimbette. The pride you had in your beautiful body and intelligent brains has just been shaken by some stereotyped judgemental socialites. And, if you ask, why? Because, the people will just assume that since you have paid so much attention to your looks, probably you don’t have any interest and time for the intellectual food for your brain! I swear, at that time I want to shout my lungs out to these people “Excuse me; Putting on mascara doesn’t stop me from reading Shakespeare. My IQ doesn’t drop every time I wear lip-gloss. The makeup on my face isn’t depleting the cells in my brain, OK! My brain actually helps me to stay beautiful. What the hell made you believe that I can’t discuss politics and market shares with you God damn CEOs? “
I don’t understand why we even have this concept. First, I believe we all are gifted and we all are actually beauty with brains. I feel, we women are also culprits at times, by taunting other women with such remarks and remaining quiet when we receive them. Our Chanel makeup or the Dior dress (or L’Oreal makeup and fashion street dress. Relax!) must not give them the justification to their belief that we haven’t fed our brains any nutrition. We have to speak up and shut their big mouths.
The girl who wears big nerdy glasses is not necessarily interested only in Dan brown books or she is a geeky kid. She might be finding those nerdy glasses actually sexy and it might be her fashion statement. The girl who owns 6 shades of lipstick might have a tall cupboard full of interesting literature. She makes heads turn when she walks with her personality and also leaves everyone awestruck because she is an achiever. The girl who posts her Selfies every-day on the social media might actually be the college topper. The girl who has that well-manicured nails might be actually the one who excels in preparing the most accurate data sheet and that too, much before the deadline. The lady who just entered in the high ponytail, Gucci glasses and the short skirt which grabs all the attention of the crowd in the elevator might actually be sitting in the corner office and have subordinates drooling over her looks and at the same time calling her ‘Bitch’ for all the running she puts them through on a daily basis. The need of the hour is that we should now ditch this love for the stereotype mentality and judgemental opinions for others.
My husband gifts me books along-with jewellery. My 4 year old daughter wrote a letter to the Santa Claus with a gift list which consisted of a dress, a lipstick and a truck! I happily imagined her growing up into a badass who would put on a dress, lipstick and drive a truck in that dress!
Don’t be like peacocks and lilies which are the most beautiful things on this earth but most useless. Be the epitome of beauty with brain. And compel this world to accept that women have beauty and brain at the same time
“A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman but a beautiful woman with a brain is absolutely a lethal combination”